"So.... Are you going to meet us for pastries or chocolate milk somewhere? You have to bring the GPS.. We are lost!!! ----Sent from my BlackBerry Handheld."
And just like that, I woke up from my mommy-gone-crazy-spell. [After all, there was a pastry somewhere in my future happening]. AND a little girl smiling among budding flowers. Within moments, my little champions parked on the lawn and Aaron serenaded me from the window to join them.
I tied up my laces, got on my bike, and we all took a ride together as a family in search of lattes, chocolate milk and old-fashioned chocolate doughnuts. The new client project I was working on will just have to wait. When we returned home, I retrieved back into the office but could hear "my life" out there. Ava running up and down the halls refusing to use the potty chair and Noah repeating "a-ta, a-ta" in his high chair. The office door swung open, and Ava looked at me - "Mommy, bubbles..." I paused - very briefly - while it was so easy to explain how Mommy has to work - it was much easier and fulfilling to blow bubbles with my daughter instead. For her to know that she is more important than anything else - means everything.
After she left and I exhaled trying to remember where I left off, Aaron stepped in to interrupt with another family situation. "You've got to see this. Bring the camera..."
And so this is how the day unfolded. With countless interruptions, mood swings, moments of insanity and pure joy - it was a lot - and I learned a lot too. Later this evening, Aaron and I talked about what we could have done differently. And here's a list we came up with:
1. Don't fall asleep with the kids. Not only is it uncomfortable for our necks - but it also affects our moods in the morning.
2. Intervene. Aaron and I know each other's pressure points. Even when others are responsible. Jump in and intervene for the other by redirecting attention or making it easier for them. Aaron refused to let Ava feed herself ice-cream out of fear of her staining her shirt. I pulled off her shirt. Then it was the carpet issue so I placed mats under her bowl - done - and Aaron's blood pressure was lowered.
3. Sing. Ava & Noah both love "If you're happy and you know it, clap your hands [smack, smack]" - so change the subject and start singing this song. They will think you lost it - but you will forget what it was that unraveled you in the first place.
4. Pray for patience. It really is something we need more of. It's almost as if we are trained in our upbringing to be otherwise. I can't even begin to count the many times patience has brought me the results I've wanted. It also gives us a chance to react to things more positively.
Here's to more moments of insanity - and the lessons that follow right after them.